EMERGING FROM SCHOOL HOLIDAYS OF EXCESS... WHEN IS GIVING OUR KIDS TOO MUCH RUINING THEM?

If your school holidays are anything like others they are filled with constant requests of movies, playdates, trampolining, waterparks, sleepovers and sugar. As a parent, the time between Christmas to school returning can feel like a whirlwind of keeping the kids entertained whilst seemingly never closing your wallet. How do we strike a balance between giving our children wonderful holiday memories and avoid turning them into greedy, unappreciative gluttons for excess? Recently I’m shocked at how many parents can relate to Christmas presents sitting on bedroom floors forgotten about, just weeks after being received. In a world of instant gratification, our children live moment to moment and

WAITING FOR A MOMENT... THAT SOMETIMES NEVER ARRIVES

Being pregnant left me a lot of time for anticipating that moment. You know the one.. where my child is finally handed to me in a euphoric climax of nine months of expectation. Hormone filled ecstasy and pure exhilaration as my eyes lock with my child’s for the first time and the boundless love of motherhood becomes a realisation. Naturally that’s what social media told me it would be like. I stared in awe and excitement at the beautiful pictures on my Instagram feed, the updates of new mothers on my Twitter and read articles shared about ‘the moment’ on my Facebook. Except it didn’t quite work out like that. My slimy wriggling daughter was thrust upon me to hold awkwardly, whilst I attempte

DIVORCED PARENTING... WHEN ITS BEST FOR YOU AND THE KIDS TO LET IT GO

Many times in my office I hear well-meaning but exasperated parents remark “But she only ever feeds them junk food!”, “They are up all night at my ex’s house and then I pay for it when they come home exhausted!” and “All he does is dump them over at the grandparents when they are in his care!”. In the midst of divorce many parents will struggle with some of the parenting choices that their ex may make whilst the children are in their care, particularly so in marital breakdowns that are acrimonious and filled with conflict. These parents find themselves caught up in the helplessness of slamming their head against a brick wall as they try to reason, plead and argue with their ex that their par

TWO THINGS YOU CAN DO TODAY TO IMPROVE YOUR CHILD'S BEHAVIOUR

In my office, I see parents seeking “strategies” every day in regards to how to manage their child’s behaviour. By the way I hate that term – “strategies” – when did parenting became so… strategic? Although I do accept that each and every child is an individual, and what is right for one family may not be for another, I find myself coming back to a few core points. At best, these core points are often overlooked, and parents jump the gun to sticker charts, discipline measures and professional therapy. At worst, the lack of consideration and attention to the points below may lead to inappropriate diagnoses such as Attention Deficit Disorders and Oppositional Disorders all while the solution c

WE NEED TO SAY GOODBYE TO KID FOOD

We have lost our way when it comes to eating. Initially I thought I would write this article primarily about feeding our fussy kids… after all I am a child psychologist… but this is not a ‘kid’ problem. There are increasing number of adults who are only able to eat ‘kid food’, surviving on diets of chicken nuggets, plainish pastas and ringing ahead to restaurants to make sure that there is something on the menu that they will be able to order before meeting up with friends. The grown adults holding down responsible jobs during the day but slipping below any one else’s radar as they shun anything green or unfamiliar in favour of comforting fried, white and bland tastes. How did we get here? A

WHY JUST PRAISING OUR KIDS IS NOT ENOUGH

Sticker charts seem to be the answer to m Sticker charts seem to be the answer to most child behaviour problems it seems. Toileting problems? Use a sticker chart. Sleeping problems? Use a sticker chart. Tantrums and defiance? Yup, bring out the sticker chart. Why then do so many parents I see complain that their sticker charts aren’t working? If it were really that simple, surely I would be out of a job as a child behavioural specialist assisting parents with these day-to-day battle grounds. A common grumble in my office goes to the tune of “oh we have tried sticker charts and they seemed to work for a few days and then the child just lost interest”. Remarkably despite this, rewards in the f

WHY CHILDREN NEED LESS THERAPY

Not the type of title you may expect from someone promoting their business as a child psychologist. But it’s the truth – too many children are in ‘therapy’ for simple and common issues that are best dealt with by parents. A few weeks ago I remember seeing a story on prime time news. A car (driven by a man of questionable mental capacity) rammed into a bus full of school aged children. Needless to say I believe there were no injuries sustained by anybody on board. The camera then cut to frantic parents standing with their children at the scene reporting that “counselling had been arranged for all children involved”. Way to make a minor incident a big deal. Way to induce anxiety and fear in in

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